"When my dad died - that was the first time I realized how different I was from other people. When I started to realize how I'd never be what they... expected of me."

And she felt that failure over and over, until she joined the Marines and realized how perfect combat was for someone like her. Until she, eventually, found her team, and realized that it was possible for someone like her to be cared for and understood.

"How about now? You ever end up cultivating that inner distance?"